I've been hearing the word "flirt" around me lately or among word of mouth.
But what does it mean to even flirt now days?
I feel like I can't try and hold a simple conversation with a girl,
without being looked upon as if I'm trying to flirt with her.
Now I can see why people would consider calling me a flirt.
I mean, I admit, I may get flirty depending on who it's with.
But this doesn't mean I flirt with any girl I meet or know.
I feel like I'm a very friendly and open person.
I'm always willing to make new friends.
One thing I get told to me pretty often is that when I meet someone,
I have a certain thing about making it feel like it isn't the first time we've met.
Or the first time we've talked.
Or chilled.
I feel like I have the ability to make people feel open and comfortable around me,
even if we just met.
But I feel like having that characteristic in myself, is viewed as me being a flirty person.
Although it may seem like I talk comfortably with many different female friends of mine,
It's just my personality and who I am.
One thing that I genuinely cherish is a person who can hold a good conversation.
I love having great conversations with someone who knows how to keep it going.
Like if I was at a party, I'd rather have a great conversation with someone I know or just met,
than rage it out and party it up.
This is why it seems like I try to talk a lot, but not because I have any bad intentions like getting in their pants,
but because I genuinely like having quality conversations.
Especially when it comes to girls because I don't get that too often.
One thing people may not know about me,
except for maybe the handful of girls I've done it to,
is that if I ever fall for a girl, and let my feelings be known to her,
I wouldn't be the same "flirty" guy I am while I'm single.
This is a side of me only a few have seen,
because I feel like it's rare that I actually openly let a girl know I'm feelin' her and pursue her.
But for those few that's seen how I am when I'm dating someone or feeling someone,
they can vouch for me that I am not the same "flirt" anymore.
This is my scale of how I'd feel towards a girl if it were to get there:
I'd be interested in her and getting to know her/spend time with her > Get to know her > I'd pursue her > I'd figure if the feeling is mutual/whether I'm wasting my time or not > I'd let her know I feel.
Those go in order based on the rarity of each phase occurring. Now I feel like it takes a special someone for me to actually get to the point where I tell her how I'm feeling. Not because I have extremely high standards, but because it's just how I am when it comes to me personally letting my feelings be known to someone else. Just how I grew up I guess. With that being said, if I were to ever get to that stage with a girl and let her know that I was feeling her, that's the truth and I wouldn't be telling that to just anybody, nor would that mean I would rather have anyone else. What I'm trying to say is that, yeah I may seem like a flirt in some eyes, but what many don't know is that when I'm actually talking to someone or dating someone, and I tell her straight up that I'm feelin' her, she'll have all my attention for a reason and I wouldn't do that with just anybody.
You can take this blog and believe what I'm saying, or just write me off as flirt. But hey, I'm young and single, so I'm going to let it flow until someone worth pursuing comes along and grabs my attention. Until then... hi haha :]
Damn this may be my longest blog this year, but I was long over due for an update. Thanks for reading (if you read this whole thing) and maybe getting to know me a little more. Hope this doesn't make you look at me differently in a wrong way, now, either. :\
Until next time,
Tony
